Technology 1, Coop 0
Technology wins today. I quit.
I don't know where to draw the line on failure, so either this attempt 7.5 for the divorce or we've officially moved on to #8. But what I do know is that I'm learning a lot about which laws you can and can't ignore.
There are laws in Ohio and Utah that are similar and ways to resolve the issue those laws pertain to administratively; that is to say that the State of Utah has provisions to resolve those issues quickly and quietly. Because I thought those laws were enforceable and pertained to me (SILLY DALE), I made a choice to follow them. I remember reading something about that in the Bible. And it was the right thing to do.
When it came time to file the divorce, I included as a provision of said filing, the non-administrative way of dealing with the issue in question because what was easy and free for me apparently was not for the future former Mrs. Cooper. OK, I'll respect that. My only concern was being on the hook for something I did in making a choice to follow the law that I thought would have some pretty steep financial repercussions for either me or the future former. I wasn't doing anything out of spite, it just seemed to make sense that if the law was the law then we had to legally undo what the law says was done. Just pretending it never happened never occurred to me.
But apparently, that's OK. It's OK with the court and third party in question and easier(?) for me, so according to the court clerk, I need to re-file the divorce paperwork so we can just bypass what the law says and just pretend it never happened. Sure, why not? I'm all about easy. Work smarter, not harder, I always say.
Ah, technology. If only it were as easy as it sounds. The state's online divorce paperwork program won't let me change one answer and erase the mounds of data I put in when the answer to the question was "yes" instead of "no". Changing to no only changes the one question. But that was after I got to the question itself.
First, there was moving the laptop, which is more difficult a process than it sounds. The cord has a magnetic plug and the battery is dead. If you bump the plug, the computer re-starts. I did this twice. And then there's the computer program itself. First off, it doesn't work in Safari. Fortunately, though, I'd ordered and installed a software update from Apple so I can run the new Firefox.
OK, so the program is open, but changing an answer from 'yes' to 'no' (aren't you glad you read this thing on a regular basis so you can find the subtle humor in some of this?) does not reset ALL of the answers supplied when the answer was yes. So what sounds like a simple, really good, and easy thing, of course, isn't. The only thing I can figure out is that I'm going to have to leave the yes answers in the computer and systematically delete the information, back to front. If the program will let me.
Or I'm gonna have to start all over again and if that's the case, that's not gonna happen for a few days.
I don't expect this to be easy. NONE of this has been easy, so why should this be?
I don't know where to draw the line on failure, so either this attempt 7.5 for the divorce or we've officially moved on to #8. But what I do know is that I'm learning a lot about which laws you can and can't ignore.
There are laws in Ohio and Utah that are similar and ways to resolve the issue those laws pertain to administratively; that is to say that the State of Utah has provisions to resolve those issues quickly and quietly. Because I thought those laws were enforceable and pertained to me (SILLY DALE), I made a choice to follow them. I remember reading something about that in the Bible. And it was the right thing to do.
When it came time to file the divorce, I included as a provision of said filing, the non-administrative way of dealing with the issue in question because what was easy and free for me apparently was not for the future former Mrs. Cooper. OK, I'll respect that. My only concern was being on the hook for something I did in making a choice to follow the law that I thought would have some pretty steep financial repercussions for either me or the future former. I wasn't doing anything out of spite, it just seemed to make sense that if the law was the law then we had to legally undo what the law says was done. Just pretending it never happened never occurred to me.
But apparently, that's OK. It's OK with the court and third party in question and easier(?) for me, so according to the court clerk, I need to re-file the divorce paperwork so we can just bypass what the law says and just pretend it never happened. Sure, why not? I'm all about easy. Work smarter, not harder, I always say.
Ah, technology. If only it were as easy as it sounds. The state's online divorce paperwork program won't let me change one answer and erase the mounds of data I put in when the answer to the question was "yes" instead of "no". Changing to no only changes the one question. But that was after I got to the question itself.
First, there was moving the laptop, which is more difficult a process than it sounds. The cord has a magnetic plug and the battery is dead. If you bump the plug, the computer re-starts. I did this twice. And then there's the computer program itself. First off, it doesn't work in Safari. Fortunately, though, I'd ordered and installed a software update from Apple so I can run the new Firefox.
OK, so the program is open, but changing an answer from 'yes' to 'no' (aren't you glad you read this thing on a regular basis so you can find the subtle humor in some of this?) does not reset ALL of the answers supplied when the answer was yes. So what sounds like a simple, really good, and easy thing, of course, isn't. The only thing I can figure out is that I'm going to have to leave the yes answers in the computer and systematically delete the information, back to front. If the program will let me.
Or I'm gonna have to start all over again and if that's the case, that's not gonna happen for a few days.
I don't expect this to be easy. NONE of this has been easy, so why should this be?
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